If all the people who’ve invented things discovered things made our lives better had listened to their inner voice telling them they couldn’t do it we’d still be living in caves! So challenge those thoughts they are NOT gospel! They’re there to hold you back keep you safe - who knows what dangers are out there?

So after last week’s look at decision-making, let’s look at how to make better decisions!

They do say that we make from 40 to 60 THOUSAND decisions a day! From the moment we open our eyes in the morning we are making decisions.

We mostly have the best of intentions.

We decide this is the moment we’re going to get help Then we forget the appointment. We decide that now is the time to earn money from our idea Then realise that we haven’t any money to invest to get started.

Nothing ever stands still and - as the saying goes nature abhors a vacuum. So if a gap in the market appears the canny folk have been quick to jump in.

Like all the companies who made hay when the pandemic hit, like online conferencing and the like - an essential and much-needed service!

Imagine how the game would go if there weren’t any!

22 people, running about aimlessly, kicking a ball here or there. Nothing happening. No drama. No joy. No regret.

Just running about kicking a ball.

There was a time - another life, it seems! - when I was in a job I hated. It was demeaning the people I had to rub shoulders with daily were not the sort of people I wanted to spend my time with.

People are always looking for answers they trawl the internet,

They blitz Youtube,

They email people … they ask and ask

They think they need resources

But in fact what they need are answers and here’s the sad thing - they don’t trust themselves enough to know that they already have the answers!

Have you got role models?

By that I mean people whose success and achievements you admire and want to mimic?

This is great! BUT the key is that you’re following the RIGHT people for the RIGHT reasons!

Practice makes Perfect

BUT in fact that’s a nonsense!

If you’re practising the wrong thing, it will be “Practice makes Imperfect”.

If you’re practising badly, it’ll be “Practice makes Worse”.

It’s all to do with what you’re actually DOING, rather than how much you do it!

We grow up being told what to do.

We take it for granted that our elders and betters are - not only elder, but better!

But now you’re all grown up and you can see how little they actually did know!

Doors are clanging and clattering open all the time.

But so often we miss them, because we’re not expecting them, or we’re looking at the wrong door!

Yep - you’re beautiful!

It’s official.

When you were born, did your parents not think you were beautiful?

What about all those oohs and aahs over the pram?

Finding out what you really want in life can be very hard - especially if you’ve spent your life up to now doing what others wanted, dictated, and chose for you!

So how can you find out for sure what you really want?

We’re always in such a hurry!

Busy busy busy - rushing from here to there, Racing from pillar to post.

Sometimes you meet yourself coming back!

And we expect everything to happen immediately.

Recently I was talking to you about thinking things into existence. And that’s true - nothing happens unless we think it first!

It’s YOUR life, and YOUR thoughts

You will never be happy if you are bowing to others’ opinions!

Like you, I was “brung up” to be polite and respectful


I would take others’ opinions most carefully into consideration.


Like all of us - I made mistakes in my life, whether getting in with the wrong crowd, pursuing the wrong goals, or just not having any direction at all! When I think of what my poor parents had to put up with … 😢

And yet … how many of us are caught up in some sort of Puritan work ethic that means we must not enjoy ourselves?

That enjoying ourselves is somehow self-serving?

Why?

Because your brain is lying!

Listen to what it’s saying and scrutinise the statement before swallowing it whole.

We are reared as nice, polite, little girls and boys.

We are taught to ASK before doing things.

“Don’t just dive in!” we’re told. “Ask nicely and wait your turn …”

And that’s all good and well for bringing children up to be well-mannered, and not grabby hooligans!

Can you wait? Can you wait indefinitely? Can you keep on waiting …?

So - what are you waiting for?

Are you waiting for things to suddenly turn around and trundle forward just as you want them to?